A Friend

Friend is someone who can sing your song in your heart when every time you forget the lyrics.

How can you really know that your friend is a true friend?  It appears as an ordinary question of teens…right?  But somehow, it is deeply related to us “twenteens” (now, thirteens) hehehe . 

Friend is someone whom we can share our whole beings…our inmost thoughts…our memories and experiences…  The laughters and tears also play an important role in any amicable relationship.  But the question is?  What makes friend a friend? 

Whew! Philosophical isn’t it?  It is really hard to find out a true friend…a friend who can understand you despite your individual differences…a friend who is always there with you even in the poignant pangs of grief in your life…

A friend who is sincere with you…who will appreciate you if you have done good things…A friend who will uplifts your heart when you are in trouble… a friend who will tell honestly if you are doing something wrong or if your act is against the moral principles… and a friend whom you can lean on…no matter what…without conditions…and a friend who keeps his/her promises…

A true friend won’t hurt you but sometimes, s/he may appear hurting you, if your friend is trying to help you and s/he touches your proud ego. 

Apparently, s/he is hurting you, but in reality, s/he is just being true and real to you as your  beloved friend. If s/he is always ready to listen to your repetitive stories which are seemingly burned like pirated CD’s/DVD’s, s/he is a true friend. 

Hey pals I can be your friend whom you can trust.  But if you are not yet satisfied with my friendship and If your mind tells you that you have not yet found your true  friend, just visit Him for once, He is just waiting…waiting for your profound appreciation…

Then, He will help you for He is your friend… Jesus.

Gratitude

gratitudeThere are lots of people who are unemployed. In every job fair that I have attended to, there were thousands of people who were applying for a job to earn a livin. Life is really difficult isn’t it?

We really need to work hard so that we can survive in our daily living…But the thing is, when we are hired by a certain company and then we are performing our tasks, we oftentimes complain for a thousand-file of works in our table…  We ask for a rest, right?  And we are always looking forward for a holiday. 

What an irony…Look!  If we don’t have job…we will search high and low to look for it…We will even offer novenas on bended kness and ask for God’s providential care so that we could find one…But then again, when we got a job, we complain almost everyday…

Instead of giving thanks to the Almighty One for the job that He has given us, what we give in return are lots of complains…Have you ever imagined that you are still blessed for you have a job and then you earn a living…? 

There are millions of people who are jobless…They even do unethical things just to sustain their lives.   But here we are, every fifteenth and 30th of the month we received our salary.  And still we complained?  Oh my Lord! What kind of individuals are we?  

Let’s give thanks to God and offer Him prayers and thanksgivings, for despite difficulties, pressures, critiques and struggles in our life, we still survive, and earn a living.  As what St. Francis says and I quote, it is in giving that we receive…

Thus, Give thanks to God to Whom we owe all things that we have….Express our gratitude…a sincerest gratitude…and God will never let us down.   

Gratitude is the memory of the heart, if the heart remembers, it always remembers in the spirit of gratitude.  

A Simple Word

Scholars are fond of reading.  They read lots of books about their own interests.  Some people like fictions, others want non-fiction,s and there are also few who read philosophy. 

You! My friend, what books do you read?  In reading, we oftentimes encounter words which cannot be easily understood, some are bombastic while others are hypalothic .  To decipher all these, we browse our best friends Webster’s and Merriam’s so that we can understand what we are reading. 

However, there are still some words which are very hard to understand, for Webster’s and Merriam’s cannot give their definitions…the essence of the words…the “whattness”.  

They simply give their description.  When we say meaning or definition of words, it should be understood per se.  “What makes this particular word, this particular word”.

The word definition for instance, we can understand this simply by looking to its etymology, from its Latin definire which means to enclose within limits.   But the sad reality is that, we are simply trying to understand things through their descriptions, isn’t it?

Again, let’s go back to the basic, try to understand word as it is, and not simply by describing it.  Morphology, of course, is of great help. 

Nota Bene: I am not claiming that dictionaries are not reliable, because they are.  I am just stressing that understanding the meaning of word through its etymology is essential.  Or else you will just agree with the meaning of the word Filipina, in the New British Dictionary that says, a prostitute, or a woman who sells her body for pleasure…

Filipinos, I hope you comprehend!!!

The More You Hate…The More You Love

The More You Hate…The More You Love

It takes time to forgive. Yes that’s true! It’s not that easy to forgive especially if the one who caused the pain is someone whom you really love…

But the thing is despite the fact  that you really feel bad about what he has done, it does not follow that you hate that person, but rather you still love that person no matter what… The feelings or emotions are still there but they simply faded away…gradually…But the love itself still remains.

Try to reflect on this, it is true and tell me if I were wrong. If you really love, you always love no matter what…It is based on the infinity of love…a love that does not end.

Because if your love lost for someone, what you have felt is not real love. But rather a feeling of infatuation…or merely affection…that overflows from the deepest recesses of your heart. 

The truth is…the more you claim that you hate someone…the more you love him/her.  The more you hate…the more you love.

Unfathomable Love

Unfathomable LoveI wonder why there are lots of individuals who claim that they fell in love when they first met.  How come? Is it really possible? 

Let’s find out…Man is capable of loving because of his intellect.  It is from this intellect that he becomes rational, i.e., he can think, known, learn, love, give and forgive. 

Most probably, the love that he felt,  is not the real love that is manifested from the inmost self of every finite being, but rather simple infatuation…a feeling of mere gratification that overflows from his/her veins…but not the love per se. 

Loving requires knowledge…knowledge on someone whom you know.  Before loving someone you have to know that person, after this activity of the intellect, then love follows. 

You can really claim that you love someone if you know that person.  The absence of knowledge is the absence of love. 

Now, after thorough assessing yourself and then you already know that person, and despite the negative qualities possessed by your “love”, and still you really feel that you are truly in love with him/her…that’s the right time to profess that your love is such real…a love that can be known but still…unfathomable.

Indefinable

indefinableLove is a four-letter word which has more than four billion different definitions which are based on the thousand-fold experiences of every single individual.

Indeed, lots of people attempted to find out the real meaning of love. Now, in trying to analyze this statement, let’s look back once again from the basics…In finding a meaning, we define it, right?

Thus we define what love is… Love is…blah…blah…blah and blah…In giving definition, we set a limit for that word for definire itself means to enclose within limits…if we will define love, we will simply enclose it within limits…if that is the case, it follows that we can define what love is.

Now, if you will simply define love you are putting a limitation on the essence of love, for love is indefinable, per se. Most probably, what you are doing is simply giving a mere description of love, but not giving it’s real definition for defining it would limit the essence or the “whatness” of love. 

Thus, love itself has no definition.  However, saying as such is already defining.  Contradictory isn’t it?

Love, in a strict sense, is… indefinable.

Inspired By Hilera’s Define

Instant

What is patience? It is a virtue.  That is the thought that most of the Catholic students learned in the school.  Defining what patience is, is quite easy for them, it is very mechanical.  But trying to understand the “whatness” of patience is hard to decipher. 

Rev. Fr. Dominic Radecki, CMRI once said and I quote patience “is a virtue which helps us, for the love of God, to calmly bear our tribulations and preserve serenity amid the sufferings of life. Patience tempers sorrow and staves off excessive anger and complaining. Patience is the guardian of all the virtues, for there are obstacles to be encountered in any good work, and they can be overcome only by patience”. 

It is obvious here that patience is a virtue, one of the cardinal virtues, which any Christians should possess. But how can people really acquire the virtue of patience, if everybody wants an instant access.

People nowadays desire to get what they want immediately.  All the scientific investigations are used in order to speed up the natural process.  

Everybody easily get tired of waiting. They don’t want to wait for so long.  Human experiences tell us that people don’t want to wait.  

As a matter of fact, many “instant” things are ever produced. Instant noodles, and instant coffee, in order to fill up the hungry stomach are there. 

ATM’s are built to speed up banking transactions.  Mobile phones and internets are the most common means of communication nowadays. One can easily send message to their loved ones using the said stuffs.

With all these realities, it appears that the humanity is very successful in trying to speed up everything and eventually avoided the agony of waiting.  All that is said from above are just few things that one can see… people really want everything to be instant, so that in a glimpse of an eye, everything would be possible. 

However, there is no such thing as instant.  To be able to eat the instant noodles, and to drink the instant coffee, one should boil water first.  One should wait for a few minute in sending the message through the SMS or through email.  

In fact, in using computer, one has to wait in order for the computer to fully function, and so it says…loading, downloading, etc.   In trying to get cash from the ATM, one should fall in line before s/he can take his/her turn. 

There is no such thing as instant millionaire.  Even the lotto bettors have to fall in line in buying their bets.  They also need to wait.  Be patient.  That is the lesson. 

There are many individuals who want to earn instant money, so they cut the trees for profit.  And they never mind replacing them.  

As a result, the city of the rich and famous was flooded.  Indeed, there is no such thing as instant that the human beings can acquire. People must have a virtue of patience. Only the Absolute One can make it happen. 

And here it was…instant flood.

Where Were You When I Needed You The Most

Where Were You When I Needed You The Most…I’m a man who is very easy to get along with.  When I make friends, I am making it sure that I am for real… For real, in the sense that, I give value to my friends, I am not just a friend during party and happiness, but you can lean on me even in times of sadness. 
 
I used to tell my friends…I am just one text away Don’t hesitate to do so.  Lean on, when you’re not strong, I’ll be your friend, I’ll help you carry on.
 
There are times in our lives that we experience lonesomeness in life, lonely in the sense that we are tired of what is happening in our everyday living.  We are just exhausted, but we don’t complain.  We just want to rest and take a deep breath, or simply have a cup of coffee. 
 
Sometimes, as humans, we just need someone to lean on, we just need someone to be with, or we just need someone to talk to.

I'm tired and exhausted already of making myself available to those who are dear to my heart, 'coz when I am the one who is in need, I have no one to lean. I am just left all alone.  I am also human being like anyone else…my strength comes from the moral support of those who are concerned to me…Of course God is always with me, but my human nature is longing for humans who can uplift myself as a person. 
 
I was thinking that I am superman, in the sense that, I can do everything without being tired and without experiencing poignant pangs of grief in this so called life.
 
Now that I am the one who needs somebody to lean, but none of my friends are available. They are enjoying their lives to the fullest without even sharing a drop of joys to others…
 
And now, I am the one who needs you…but where were you, when I needed you the most.

I Love MCDO

mcdoI still remember my college days when my classmates and I were having our snacks at McDonald's.  We used to spend our time with simple burger, french fries, and drinking soda.  With only 26 pesos, we were already happy for a value meal. 

However, there were so many times when I wasn't able to join with them because my school allowance was very limited.  I just had 2.50 pesos for my  jeepney fare and I had no more. 

I felt a little sadness within me for I have no single penny for a value meal.  But I accepted the fact that I can't afford to join with my classmates as long as I want to because of my financial situation.  I rather spent my afternoon playing my old guitar.

The music that I played were lingering in my heart. It gave me a rhythm of satisfaction in my life though.  Acceptance of who I am, made me stronger each day that I can't join with my classmates.  I told myself someday, I will order the most expensive meal in McDo.

After college graduation, I landed to a teaching job.  The salary was not that high but it was more than enough to sustain my needs.  And thus, I fulfilled my promise to myself.  I had my lunch at McDonald's and I ordered the most expensive meal that the food stuff offered. 

mcdo burgerI can't forget the quarter pounder.  It was yummy. Of course, I added a little money "Go Large".  Meaning, my coke and fries were served in a large serving.  And I enjoyed my meal   a lot.  Since I don't know how to cook, McDonald's served as my kitchen, hmmm I mean my dining hall (of course with a little exaggeration)

But I still felt alone, for I didn't have my classmates anymore, unlike before we were there together, enjoying our meal, laughing and chitchatting with one another, though most of the time I was not able to join them.  Yes, I had more money to buy McDo Meal, but my classmates were already gone. We have our own lives right now.

When I left the country, there began my craving for McDonald's once again.  I've missed the taste of the value meal that I used to eat.  If you are familiar with McDo, you'll know what I'm talking about. 
 
One day, during my laboratory check-up, I asked my driver to drop by at the nearest McDonald's. Unfortunately, it was closed.  I just go back to the hospital and had my monthly check up.  Sad to say, no value meal.
 
However, my longing for value meal were gone when our Head Mechanic, Sir Joe and our Male Nurse, Robert had lunch at McDo today.  They came back to the office with value meal for me and for Mr. Felix, my Boss.  Since, it was already lunch break, I gave Sir Felix his value meal and I brought mine in my room.
 
There, I enjoyed a lot eating my Big Mac. Big in the sense that it was really BIG.  For in this country, what you see is what you get.  The burger McDo was truly delicious and very tasteful.  But as I was about to finish eating, I felt a little sadness in me, for it's quite painful and lonely to eat alone. 
 
I was so lonesome.  and then I realize that,  it is not really the McDonald's or the value meal that I've missed, it is rather the persons who were with me during the time that I ate at McDo.
 
I can afford to have a party at McDonald's now, (modesty aside), but it is futile and meaningless when your loved ones are not around.

God Does Not Exist

God Does Not ExistLudwig Andreas Von Feuerbach, a humanist-atheist claims that God does not exist.  He explains that God is merely a projection of human imagination. 

He says that man, in his action, is experiencing limitations in this life.  He is going through suffering and poignant pangs of grief in life.  To make up for this limitation, he produced or made up the idea/concept of God who is greater than himself.  

Man, in his limitation, made the idea of infinite, eternal and omnipotent God.  Thus, Feuerbach claims that God is a simple product of human imagination. 

To put into syllogism, he says that “If God is, so man is a slave.  But man is free and intelligent, therefore God does not exist.” 

Granted that Feuerbach was trying to prove the non-existence of God by saying that God is just a product of human imagination in order to satisfy his limitation.  Though he was able to deny the existence of God, still, he was not able to explain where this man’s idea of God comes from.  

The question now is that, if man was able  to make his own idea of God who is greater than himself, where this idea/concept of God comes from? 

Obviously, his idea/concept of God does not come from himself, for man cannot think or even create someone or something which is greater than himself. 

This unsolved question in Feuerbach’s position is answered and explained by Rene Descartes